Bad things happen in life. Bad things are unavoidable, unpredictable, and often unforgettable. I wanted to take the time, however, to put some thoughts out in the world about how unfortunate events ultimately serve a necessary purpose. From minor letdowns to major obstacles to flat out horrible experiences I know that as humans we are designed to adapt and reshape to survive. Take the loss of a loved one for example, either by death or a separation (which feel oddly similar). Grief is an extremely difficult thing to process. Although I don't think it's as simple as "everything happens for a reason" when someone you love is removed from your life, I do think it's important to focus on any positive things that may have happened as a result of the changes that followed the loss.
Changes we make by choice are quite different than changes we are forced to make. When we must adjust and we have no control it will always be painful in the beginning. Think about how much time and energy we spend on trying to be in control of whatever situation we can! So much. We strive to preserve our happiness and take extreme measures to maintain a desired comfort level.
When we must change our lifestyles, routines, habits, relationships, or environments in order to carry on that is really what fosters growth. When given no choice but to go against what feels comfortable we are reminded of our own resilience and we may also rediscover our true priorities in the process. This doesn't simply mean bad things = good things...they're still bad and they'll feel bad. There are usually some positive outcomes as a result of difficult changes though, they just take longer to see. Sometimes these positive outcomes aren't apparent until months or even years after the initial hardship. I assure you though, if you are discouraged do not lose faith. Eventually your path will be made straight and the sun will come out again.
"It is just a bad day, not a bad life"
-C
